"We want to be loved- thrilled, ecstatic, and cherished- but the closer we walk this light and more desperately we cling to it, of course, the longer our shadows grow behind us. This is why love fails so very often; because it becomes a distraction (or is treated that way) and not as a means to growth. The real aim of love, then, is not to abandon darkness, but to embrace it, pull it closer, and love it too. Then we honor its teachings, learn from it and from lovers, who always- properly and by divine necessity - evoke our shadows as much as our light. Finally, through this process, we begin to love ourselves."
Romans 5:8 (via rebreathing